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“ROAD TO RECOVERY” |
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By HEILA CHAPMAN |
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A Christian Counsellor's guide to bring hope and healing for those with unwanted pregnancies and related issues. |
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The primary reason for this manual is to give guidance to counsellors dealing with women in a pregnancy crisis situation, however, with a few adaptations; this manual can also be used in other areas of counselling.
The manual has 155 pages of information and also a section called counsellor's tools which give templates of questionnaires for clients to complete, giving them a hands-on approach to the healing and restoration process. |
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RANDOM EXTRACTS FROM “ROAD TO RECOVERY”. |
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(Extracts from the CONTENTS, giving a broad view of subject matter dealt with in more detail in the manual.) |
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A MATTER OF FAITH: |
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Goals – To accept a woman unconditionally and to convey something of God's love to her
To treat her with genuine consideration and respect whatever her motives are in seeking help
Desires – To bring her to a place of peace and release from the pain of her pregnancy |
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COUNSELLOR'S BASIC REQUIREMENTS : |
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Good Qualities of a Counsellor: |
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Without ulterior motives
Peaceable
Gentle, courteous, considerate
Full of compassion
Impartial
Sincere
A good listener |
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REJECTION – The root of most problems |
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Some reasons for rejection: |
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The unborn baby – unwanted, mother unmarried, experiencing fear, tensions, emotional rejection
As a baby – unwanted, rejection of sexuality, no bonding between baby & mother / father
As a child – child was disciplined with anger and manipulation, conditional acceptance, hurting words: “You are bad – unwanted – stupid”
Sexual molestation / abuse
Symptoms of rebellion: Competitive, hypercritical attitude, manipulation
Escape mechanisms: Drugs, alcohol, smoking, eating disorders, and excessive sleep
Psychosomatic sicknesses: Migraine, stomach problems, asthma, heart problems |
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STEPPING OUT OF DENIAL |
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Aims : To explore feelings of loss in relationships then and now
Exploring losses – primary, secondary and losses as a result of coping behavior
Encourage her that as she faces her losses to push through her painful emotions and move towards recovery |
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Anger: When a lady stepped from denial and rejection, she will usually feel anger, even fear, focusing on these emotions is important because it can cover other deeper emotions. |
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Depression: if often stems from self-criticism and loathing of self. |
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TRAPDOOR OF GUILT & SHAME: |
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To understand Guilt and Shame and the difference between them
GUILT says: “I made a mistake”
SHAME says: “I am a mistake” |
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ACCOUNTABILITY: |
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Aims: To encourage the counsellee to own the part she played for what happened to her and identify the part played by others
To encourage the counsellee to gain new perspective to help her face the pain of accountability
To define accountability and blame and separate the two
To identify any issues of accountability and blame that the counsellee may struggle with |
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FORGIVENESS: |
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Unforgiveness steals our joy of salvation and the client needs to be led to restoration of inner joy that can only come through forgiveness. We must also have a willing spirit to speak forgiveness to those who caused us pain.
Forgiveness is a process: it begins in our thoughts, our minds and then moves to our emotions. As soon as we begin to really forgive, we are amazed to discover all that comes to mind, often instances which we thought we had forgotten as well as names of people who we no longer thought about.
Forgiveness is a decision of our will – a choice!
Only forgiveness can bring healing
Forgiveness opens the door to possibilities and life, instead of forcing you to live in the darkness of bitterness and death
Forgiveness renews life – you're no longer had to be the victim. You are free to re-evaluate your relationships and to set healthy boundaries. |
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SEXUAL BONDAGE |
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Sexual abuse
What is sexual abuse?
Symptoms of sexual abuse (molestation)
Consequences of sexual abuse
Sex before marriage
Ungodly soul-ties
Breaking of ungodly soul-ties
Deliverance and freedom from bondage |
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CHOICES: |
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Should I keep my baby?
Adoption
Adoption in the past vs. adoption today
Misconceptions about adoptions
To give the gift of life |
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RESOURCES: |
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Forms, Questionnaires and Homework. |
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COUNSELLOR'S TOOLS: |
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Process note
Individual intake interview
Assessment form |
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This publication can be purchased at R150 per copy, p.p. included
Click: info@procura.co.za to order |
